Toddler v’s Baby: Sibling Rivalry?


My eldest is 3 1/2yrs and my youngest is 3 1/2 mths.  Ever since I announced my pregnancy with my youngest (son) people kept saying :

  • Have you started to prepare for the jealousy from the oldest?
  • Have you explained how there’s going to be a new addition to the 20151107_113018 - Copyfamily that will be loved equally?
  • Why don’t you get a dolly for Toddler so that they get used to having a baby around the house?
We were of course aware that bringing back a day old baby into a house where my daughter has been the ‘star of the show’ for 3 years would be a change, I mean a really big change, but we were prepared!
Even the nursery said she may ‘regress’ to being a baby because the attention is often taken away from the older sibling so we sort of came to expect it to happen.  My son is now 3 months old, and I can honestly say there’s been no dramatic regression, she’s not smothered him…yet, and she seems to…well…love him!
  • We’ve always encouraged her to help out by fetching nappies, reading stories and kissing him good night.
  • We never shout at her for giving a bit-too-20151214_122034tight-a-cuddle (which she does regularly!)
  • We always say she’s our big girl and is a great big sister.
  • We do make a greater fuss of her when she comes in from nursery.
  • We do try to have 1-on-1 time just me and her even if it’s just for 5 mins.
Too quickly we are told the toddlers nature is to be jealous and to cause havoc, but I think a lot of the time we impose it ourselves by expecting it to happen, because of what other people say.  Each family is different. I know they will have their arguments as they grow older, and I may well have a full basket of eggs on my face in a few months time –  but for now just call us the Waltons!
What are your experiences of introducing new siblings to the family?
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Lucy Bee Coconut Oil & and the Benefits for Babies

 This whole organic, virgin, coconut clean living thing has honestly passed me by until now.  Yes, I’ve bought cod liver oil tablets in the past and even extra virgin olive oil, but being more of a visual-seeing-is-believing type of person I’ve never really felt or seen many benefits.

I breastfed for as long as was personally possible and during that time my second born, who was only 3 weeks old developed a small eye infection and cradle cap.  The health visitor recommended that old ‘comeback free’, ‘health and safety at its best’ ‘risk free’ remedy… COOL BOILED WATER!

After a week it still hadn’t cleared up and I was due to take him back to the Dr’s.  I happened mentioned it to a fellow breast feeder who advised dropping a tiny bit of breast milk around the eye and rubbing it in like a moisturiser.  Within 12 hours his eye had cleared up.  I then decided to rub a bit onto his cradle cap and abracadabra it cleared up after a few days!  If he got a pimple, neck rash, or any blemishes on his skin I would always use breast milk and it worked!  Even the health visitor was shocked at the results.

Now he’s 3 months old and my breastfeeding days are unfortunately over. His cradle cap came balucybee2ck and so did his neck rash.  After a bit of a google I’d read that coconut oil was a natural remedy for softer skin and had a multitude of health benefits.  So I purchased my first tub of Lucy Bee Coconut Oil.  I can honestly say I don’t know why I’ve never used it before. Although there’s no substitute for breast milk I feel it’s the next best natural thing for me and my babies:


1.       CRADLE CAP – this image is my 3 month old son with a nice shiny head after applying the oil with a cotton ball. I’ve used baby oil before but it’s never really absorbed quite as well as the coconut oil.

2.       NECK RASH – I had terrible problems with his neck rash and have had to use a prescribed cream to clear it up. However, as a natural barrier cream I’ve started to use the oil.

3.       DRY SKIN – My toddler who is 3 will occasionally get dry skin around the back of her ears and yes, I use the oil

4.       CHAPPED LIPS- The whole family uses it as lip balm.

5.       FRIZZY HAIR – My daughter has ridiculously curly hair, which when combed resembles a tumbleweed. After a small combing of oil it does bring it under control.

And of course the smell is lush.

How you found any other benefits from coconut oil?

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