Toddler v’s Baby: Sibling Rivalry?

 

My eldest is 3 1/2yrs and my youngest is 3 1/2 mths.  Ever since I announced my pregnancy with my youngest (son) people kept saying :

  • Have you started to prepare for the jealousy from the oldest?
  • Have you explained how there’s going to be a new addition to the 20151107_113018 - Copyfamily that will be loved equally?
  • Why don’t you get a dolly for Toddler so that they get used to having a baby around the house?
We were of course aware that bringing back a day old baby into a house where my daughter has been the ‘star of the show’ for 3 years would be a change, I mean a really big change, but we were prepared!
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Even the nursery said she may ‘regress’ to being a baby because the attention is often taken away from the older sibling so we sort of came to expect it to happen.  My son is now 3 months old, and I can honestly say there’s been no dramatic regression, she’s not smothered him…yet, and she seems to…well…love him!
  • We’ve always encouraged her to help out by fetching nappies, reading stories and kissing him good night.
  • We never shout at her for giving a bit-too-20151214_122034tight-a-cuddle (which she does regularly!)
  • We always say she’s our big girl and is a great big sister.
  • We do make a greater fuss of her when she comes in from nursery.
  • We do try to have 1-on-1 time just me and her even if it’s just for 5 mins.
Too quickly we are told the toddlers nature is to be jealous and to cause havoc, but I think a lot of the time we impose it ourselves by expecting it to happen, because of what other people say.  Each family is different. I know they will have their arguments as they grow older, and I may well have a full basket of eggs on my face in a few months time –  but for now just call us the Waltons!
What are your experiences of introducing new siblings to the family?
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8 comments

  1. It sounds like they have a lovely relationship. I imagine it’s a bit adjustment for you all and like all siblings they’ll have their moments, but they’ll each other regardless. Lovely photos. Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

    1. Thanks Emily and yes going from one to two kids is such a different ball game! I’m sure things will get harder the older they get But for the time being it’s lovely lol

  2. This was our experience too. Our toddler loved giving his baby brother cuddles and helping us look after him from day one, and the only time I’m worried he might hurt him is when he cuddles him too hard. I think you’re right that toddlers get a bit of a bad rap for being jealous; we were so surprised how well he took it.

    1. They definitely do! And it’s the expectancy of it that I think makes you constantly wait for that moment that they ‘turn’. I always ask for big cuddles though but they just don’t realise that the babies are so fragile. I hope this closeness lasts x

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